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Providing the Tools to Handle
Stress & Anxiety
Wemhoff, Ph.D. and Mary Decker, Redmond Reporter
Most of Dr. Wemhoff's clients are middle-aged men facing job stress,
unemployment and/or conflict in their personal lives.
“I see a lot of adjustment disorder — something going on in the
person’s life,” he explained. “It could be a situational problem.
... A lot of people use the word ‘tools.’ They want tools to help
them deal with stress at work or in relationships.”
Those tools could include calming techniques such as meditation or
visualization, said Wemhoff. He also works with people cognitively,
to stop certain thought processes and replace them with less anxious
thinking. He asks them to avoid “worst case scenarios”
and focus on what is happening in the present, or “What do I
need to do in terms of next steps?”
Fran Regdos, MSW, ACSW sees a lot of couples who feel trapped in bad
marriages because of money. They can’t sell their house or can’t
afford to maintain separate households. She also sees many who want
to save their marriages, “but it takes a lot of discipline,” she
Another therapist, Wendy Berg added, “Many would be better off
leaving but they can’t.”
So what do they do?
“Treat it like college roommates, like you’re stuck in the lease but
can’t get out,” said Berg. “Sometimes Dad ends up living in the
basement. It’s hard for the couple but harder still for the kids.”
Divorce and its toll on childrens’ emotions is a constant source of
mental health issues, the therapists agreed.
Emmaus therapists see children and teens who are overwhelmed with
activities, expectations and social pressures. From culminating
projects to college acceptance and fears about poverty, kids have
much more to worry about than their parents’ generation did.
“And school does not feel so safe anymore. Weapons are more readily
accessible,” Wendy Wahlroos, LMFT said.
Wendy Berg, LMHC said she’s seeing many people who have conflicts in
Technology also can negatively impact the way people communicate,
“They’re texting all the time, have relationships online. Parents
may be out of the loop,” said Wahlroos.
“All the multi-tasking contributes to attentional problems,”